How we can make our kids safe in the family........

Keep the lines of communication open and establish an atmosphere in your home that encourages kids to talk to you about what's going on in their lives. 

Teach your children your telephone number and area code, teach them how to contact you or close friends.

Tell them you love them and that you always want to see them, no matter what anybody else tells them. 

Most family-member abductions happen only after the offender has talked about taking a child, so it's important, says Allen, to pay attention to what you consider threats. 

If you identify a family member who talks about taking a child, collect and keep pertinent information (social security numbers, credit cards, etc.) about them on hand. 

Address the legal issues: have a valid custody order, don't just assume anything.